This was given on May 25, 2003 at the little church I pastored in Lynnville, IL. The Scripture is from John 15: 9-17…
Some of you may remember me telling you how my grandpa on dad’s side of the family was born in 1900. That meant that he was too young to go to war during the First World War, and too old during the second. I don’t remember him ever talking about any military service, so I can’t tell you if he had a chance to serve or not. Dad, however, is the oldest of the three boys, and I can tell you that each of them served their stint wearing dog-tags. He served in the Seabees during the Korean War and told, one time, how they were the first ones to go onto an island to build the landing strips that the Marines would come in on. The next brother down was also in the Navy, judging by what I remember of his tattoos, and I remember the youngest telling how he once flew with the Blue Angels… as their radio operator! That side of my family was just about as ‘redneck American’ as they come, so I feel justified in telling you another story about my grandpa in honor of Memorial Day.
Grandpa was what you might call a self-made man. And apparently most of what he did must have worked out alright. They had the very first television set in that whole area, and I was told that all of the neighbors would come from miles around to see it. (Of course, I saw it too. I was a teenager when he was finally forced to replace it!) I was also told that at one time the family went around in a new Pierce Arrow… I do know that grandpa always bought a new vehicle for grandma, though for many years he would usually find some old clunker for himself. So most of what he did must have really been successful. But the stories that I was told, and the ones that I remember being a part of as I was growing up, are more about some of the infamous mistakes that occurred over the years.
The first is rather short… for some reason, nobody has ever wanted to fill in any of the details. Indeed, if I hadn’t been paying attention when dad mentioned it in passing one time, I would probably never have known anything about it. It seems that when the family was starting out they lived right on the Mississippi river close to Hartford in a ‘treehouse’. Along with fishing, grandpa also farmed, and apparently had ground on both sides of the river. To move equipment from farm to farm, grandpa built some kind of barge and would load up on one bank, cross, and unload on the other. As interesting as this has always been to me, it has never been explained in great detail because… apparently on one trip across, the barge sank along with everything on it! (From what I remember of the homemade fishing boats we used as I was growing up, his boat-building skills never did get much better… just boards, nails, and roofing tar… and a ‘pork-and-beans’ can to keep it bailed out with!)
The second story I can vouch for personally… I was an eye-witness to the whole thing! Grandpa had bought a medium-sized bulldozer to build the fishing lake on the farm that he had intended to retire on, and had kept it afterwards to do various jobs on both farms and for neighbors as needed. One year, the moss in the fishing lake had grown so thick it was almost impossible to row a boat through. (Remember, this was in the days before they had chemicals and such to take care of that problem.) After ‘cussing and discussing’ the problem and different possible solutions with everyone for a number of weeks, grandpa brought the ‘dozer down to the shop and fabricated a drag for the front of it. This consisted of a piece of 12” I-beam about 12 feet long attached to the bottom of the blade by two eight-foot lengths of heavy angle-iron, with two lengths of chain running from the top of the blade to hold up on it. When he lifted the blade, the I-beam would rise well into the air, and when he lowered it, it would just drag its’ own weight on the ground. After making sure it worked, we disassembled it, hauled everything back up to the other farm, then reassembled it. I was standing on the bank and watched as he pointed that crawler right at the lake and drove in until the water was just over the tracks. Then he dropped the bar and went to back out… and was stuck! The crawler had pitched forward in the mud, and he couldn’t raise the I-beam off of the bottom! There he sat in the middle of that end of the lake and couldn’t move! He finally had to get my uncles and some tools and remove the I-beam from the blade in three feet of mud and water before he was able to finally back out. Another good idea that didn’t work!
I was the oldest grandchild on that side of the family and was always pretty close to grandpa. When he passed away in 1983, I wasn’t able to go up and look at him, but I remember all of us grandkids telling ‘grandpa’ stories as we rode to the cemetery and all during the dinner afterwards. Each of us loved him in our own way, and each of us knew he loved us, even though I’m sure that he never uttered those words to anybody in his family except maybe grandma, and then only when they were young and foolish. And later, as I came to dwell on that fact, it grew to mean even more to me… because, even though I was adopted into that side of the family, you would never have been able to tell it from either his or grandma’s actions. Neither may have ever been able to express their feelings out loud, but their love for me and all of their other grandkids was proven in some form every time we were with them.
I picked up a lot from my grandpa… I tend to look for solutions to problems from ‘outside the box’… I truly love the outdoors and farming, even though I don’t get to be around either very much anymore… and I am overwhelmingly good at teasing people in such a way that they may not realize they are being teased and get upset. (This is not always a good thing!) But one other thing I seem to have picked up from him is the idea that we aren’t to let any of our emotions show on the surface. In today’s’ verses, Jesus commands us to, “Love each other as I have loved you”, and this is what I seem to have done in regards to grandpa. But in this instance, that, also, is not a good thing!
Scholars tend to agree that Christ’s words in this chapter and the next were given at the close of the last supper, and basically amount to a farewell sermon. He wanted them to be aware of these things;
Now that he was about to leave them, they would be tempted to return to Moses again; therefore, He tells them how necessary it was that they should adhere to their faith and abide in Him. He also knew that they would be tempted to grow apart from one another; and therefore pressed upon them to love one another, and to keep up that communion, which had been their comfort, when he was gone. These words had been given to the apostles, but the same words very much apply to us today as well… and for many of the same reasons!
Jesus’ own words are, “If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love… My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” Barnes’ Notes points out that, “Jesus’ love was so great for all of us that he was about to lay down his life. This constitutes a strong reason why we should continue in his love: first, the love which he shows for us is unchanging. It is the love of our best friend – love whose strength was expressed by toils and groans… and blood.
The only way that we can properly express our gratitude, and show that we are His true friends, is to be as unchanging in our character and strength as He is in His. And finally, our happiness here – and forever – depends altogether on our continuing in the love of Christ. We have no source of permanent joy but in that love.
Now, I think that that is a very interesting statement… “We have no source of permanent joy but in that love.” As translated in the Living Bible, Jesus said, “I have told you this so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your cup of joy will overflow!” What does he mean by that?
The Life Application Commentary tells us that, “When things go well, we feel elated. When hardships come, we sink into depression. But true joy rises above the rolling waves of circumstance. Joy comes from a consistent relationship with Jesus Christ… The joy of living with Jesus Christ daily keeps us levelheaded no matter how high or low our circumstances.”
Grandpa had a ‘Joy’ of life… a real joy of living everyday to its fullest. And yet, in all of the years that I knew him, he never took a step into any church building. I don’t believe that I have ever met anyone who had more Christian values as they pertained to dealing with others and with life. But I can’t tell you what his religious beliefs were, if he indeed had any… because he kept all of his emotions wrapped up inside of himself!
And I believe that many of us are prone to doing the same… I know for myself, that the fear of being hurt from negative emotions was so strong that for many years it was far simpler to just bury them all. But that prevented me from enjoying all of the really good emotions that are also out there!
The Life Application Commentary says that,
“Our world wants love to be spontaneous and driven by feeling. But Jesus knows our deeper need. We know we ought to love even when we don’t feel like it because we want others to love us when we are unlovable. In Jesus we find both the supreme model for loving and the supreme resource. He commands us to love, and he helps us accomplish his command.
If we understand how deeply we are loved by God in spite of our sin, we will be pushed in the direction of loving others ourselves. Those who do not realize God’s love for them find it difficult to love others.”
That, in my opinion, is one of the greatest gifts that Christ left for us today… the overpowering joy that comes when we choose to use our God-given ability to love others…
Jesus made the first choice — to love and to die for us, to invite us to live with him forever. We make the next choice — to accept or reject this offer. We choose whether or not to accept His love and sacrifice. But if we so choose… if we accept Christ as our Lord and Savior… then we are required by Him to pass that love… that offer… on to others! Are we doing that in our lives?
Today, as we remember all of the sacrifices made by others for us over the years… as we remember loved ones who had a great impact on our lives… I ask you to consider Him who made the greatest sacrifice of all in your name… and to ask yourself, “Whose life have I impacted… and whose can I impact today?” For Jesus’ command IS to “Love each other!” And obeying that command is the source of our greatest joy!